I've had friends, clients and family members all uttering these words lately - gazing at another human being, and wishing part of who they are is part of who he/she is. Now, being inspired by someone's hard work is cool - admiring someone else's appearance is certainly cool, too. But, wishing you could replace a part of yourself with a part of someone else is not cool. And when the people that I admire and adore do this, things inside me sink because they are missing something. They are missing the unique value and the best parts of themselves in the process.I won't get all Oprah-y, I promise. But guess what? If I care about you, and you criticizing your body / flaws / whathaveyou is hurting me, it's most certainly hurting you. And that hurts me some more.
Be careful how you phrase things. We are all destined to be very different, we are not supposed to all look the same, which is the biggest problem with being bombarded with airbrushed images everywhere. There are people whose careers are to be very symmetrical in order to not outshine a product that they are endorsing. Don't wish away your you-niqueness - I think you would miss it very much. Becoming your best self is of course applaudable. We all want that, and we should all go after that. Individuality is probably the most striking and enjoyable part of being alive - knowing ourselves, and knowing others. Wouldn't you agree?
I'm going to pass this over now to Amy Poehler and Dr. Seuss, who both said it best in different ways:
"Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You." - Dr. Seuss